What is Self- Discipline?
September Montessori Minute - Ms. Susie's Blog
We all want our children to develop self-discipline as well as many other lifelong attributes so first we must understand what it means and develop strategies to help our children take responsibility for their actions and take ownership of their behavior.
Our relationship with our children as well as with others must be based upon respect and trust. Respect is shown to others based on how we speak to one another and how we act towards others. Especially in situations that are highly emotional, our responses will be a model for our children. Refrain from harsh reactions that intimidate, embarrass or belittle another person.
When disciplining a child keep in mind that we want to encourage children to take responsibility for their actions and we are modeling how we take responsibility for our actions based on how we interact with them.
Encourage the characteristics that you want your child to develop as a contributing member of our society. Take a few moments and list ways to encourage and develop these characteristics. Notice when your child demonstrates kindness or fairness. Be specific by stating the action or what you heard and how that related to a positive characteristic.
Listed below are six types of core virtues identified by Positive Psychologists:
- Wisdom and Knowledge – creativity, curiosity, open mindedness, love of learning and perspective.
- Courage: bravery, persistence, integrity and vitality.
- Humanity: love, kindness and social intelligence.
- Justice: citizenship, fairness and leadership.
- Temperance: forgiveness and mercy, humility and modesty, prudence and self-regulation
- Transcendence: appreciation of beauty and excellence, gratitude, hope, humor and spirituality.
Be patient with your children and provide opportunities for them to practice patience. It is said that only true discipline is self-discipline!
To read more about self-discipline, when you need some parenting advice or have a question about Montessori education visit the websites www.kidstalknews.com and www.mariamontessori.com. These sites provide great articles and interesting parenting tips!
Also, don’t forget about our parent lending library located in the lobby with helpful books and magazines about child development and more.